About you, please correct me if I am wrong?

When you met him he had just ended a relationship with his first wife and was involved with another woman while dating you You two met because he delivered a package to your office. You exchange numbers and arrange to meet each other for your first date, but he stands you up. But for whatever reason he does hook up with you and things happen and he never left your side from that point. Until you hooked up with his first ex wife's husband who by the is now your current husband. Wow what a story hoes gone mad. The way I understand the story you so desperately wished to consume the identity of his first wife that you had both of her man and have babies by both of them as so does she. What I think is so ironic is that you both not only share the fathers but you also have the same initials. Wow this is some good stuff I can really see you in a starring role. Heather Hunter's story isn't as good as yours but what do I know? I know that you lack confidence in your self that you have gone so far as to assume the identity of his first wife. I know researching me will bring you great joy because measuring up to me will be a commitment you will never complete in this life time but it is definitely worth the effort. Good luck in your endeavor.

What I learned today!

Today I learned I have a female stalker his ex wife I'm trying to refrain from using your name in this blog but if you make me I will call you out. I am only blogging because I need you to realize before you make the biggest mistake of your life of who your are messing with. My name is Melva Hunter and yes I am a mother, a woman and then a wife. From what I understand your married to the man of his ex wife wow, what type of chick does that? I'm not sure if this is worth a segment on Jerry Springer or if I should contact the History channel to see if your story is worth being aired after all what you did, have done will go down in history as what a hoe shouldn't do prostitutes don't pick up and marry a boy that lives off his mama but your story is worth telling. In case you didn't know I am a writer and willing to get your side if the story but if not I will just recant his side. I am not sure what I have done to make you want stalk me like this but I ask you via this blog to stop immediately. From a woman to a whore I ask that you please leave me alone or you will regret the day you researched me. Enjoy your life with your husband and please leave me alone. Last time.

my life and love for you.

My life is an investment, every single thing I do is for a purpose. I want to thank you babe for wanting to spend the rest of your life with me. I love you and cant wait to marry you..

2010-2011

In the early part of 2010, I cried enough because of the sadness, pain and more drama than needed, but once I separated myself from the negativity, my frown quickly turned upside right. I met someone who knew the meaning of love and respect, now known as my Snuggie. I thank God often for blessing me with love and the happiness that I have so richly desired. I know that the Lord is with me and now the devil realizes that I’m still here. The old is gone and the better is here and I am stronger, confident and more passionate. I have learned that God will let it do what it do, and through perseverance I will have that close relationship with him.

My first 48 hours into 2011, I realized I am moving into something. I plan to see God more this year than ever before, because I need him to align me with his blessings, and the ones he has prepared especially for me. This year I will: pace myself, look for new opportunities to succeed, live on purpose, and strengthen my relationship with Christ and man, through commitment, communication and sacrifice.

This year I will break out in praise because my joy will in the morning…God is with me and I know this year will be a better year, I moving into a better place strategically, putting myself on target for my own destination, by aligning my thinking with my purpose. I will be specific in my blessing according to the word, be unto my favor on every side, health and wholeness. I can no longer live in excuse, God I command order out of this disorder, I want to move on purpose.

Hey Lord...

I thank you for allowing me to have had these last couple of days to examine me and my life. I know that I have made many mistakes over the years but none have compared to the mistakes I made by not following your words. I have come to the quick realization that home is where my heart is and I think at this point in the game I can't tell where home is because my heart has not found peace and the tranquil I desire. I know every part of me hates where I reside and that has everything to do with the circumstances of my inability to believe that you led me to that place for a reason. I want what every person desires to be happy and free from the burdens that I carry from my past. Not every person is out to hurt me and because I can't recognize trust I can't find that salvation I seek. I ask you God on a daily basis to continue bless me and help me find the strength that I need but is that all I need to do? I pray, give him praise and I ask for your guidance hourly. I am not that strong individual that I pretend to be I'm only human, but you know that. I am a woman first and a mother second. I admit I can't do this anymore Lord that's why I'm writing to you at this hour, I just hope that you can decipher through all of this and give me what I so desire, that inner strength and happiness. Thank you Lord for blessing me, without you I know none of this possible.

Selfish.....

I never in a million years thought I would state that you are selfish. You are a stubborn, selfish, spiteful, and a very negative individual. You have stated you live your life according to God but yet you are so judgmental and I never could understand people like you, thus my reason for not wanting to concern myself any further. God is my juror not you. What I choose to do with my time should not be a factor that you deem a fault.

I honestly believe that you are living under false pretense and yes I failed to recognize your inabilities but believe it or not despite my ways, God is very active in my life. He has presented me with so many signs and I have for the most ignored his words but I won’t and will no longer continue down that path. I need to Love, Live and enjoy my LIFE according to God. I will no longer allow anger and ignorance to hold me hostage. I FOUND MYSELF, and the sooner you look in the mirror and see past your swag than you will be able to appreciate life and what God has in store for you.

Not all women are out to do you wrong, but you will never see that so long as you only see swag. Have a great life and enjoy her……

Distance....

There may be distance between us, 2881 miles to be exact, but I need you to know and understand that my love for has not and will never change. I gave you life, you gave me strength, hope and something to live for. In all the things that I have done in my life my most precious outcome has been your growth and development. I am proud to call you my daughter, my son and my grandson.

I know I have had to endure more than my share of sadness but my sadness never was because of your existence. I love your every being, stay blessed, be focused and know that I may be 2881 miles away but I am never to far to love you...I miss you..

Love to you!

Why be so judgemental.......

You came in and conquered my heart so you thought... I allowed you into my world with the belief that you were different but now I see you for the person that you truly are, sure you were parading around here as if you loved me, but what I believe is that you loved me for all the wrong reasons.

Your swag has your ego so far gone that you can't even recognize that I am hip to your crap. I asked you not to hurt me when we began that quest, but you could not honor my wishes and for that I have to turn and walk away. Sure some may say that I move without thinking but to remain with you will only cause both of us pain. Sure I love and I mis you but I have come to the quick realization that I can no longer be with you and I hope that you take heed to these words and do not regret me for feeling this way.

Your quickness to judge me has consumed my heart with no desire to in your presence. I have repeatedly asked that you not judge me but because you think that you are better versed in the bible I get the sense that you think that gives you the right to pass judgment on my flaws. I laugh at you and all the others that believe that I am not a strong woman and that my issues are not correctable. I am a great woman, I'm just a human being that has/is enduring pain and unfortunately I don't deal with pain the same way you do.....

So you thought....

So you thought I would crumble up and die. You thought my life revolved around you and that you were the best thing to happen to me. What you have displayed over these last couple of months has led me to believe that you think that I was so far gone mentally that it was you that was keeping me sane. I believe part of you wished that I would not be able to function without you.

I treasured parts of our relationship but you made me relinquish those memories as you progressed into the unidentifiable person. You professed to the man for me and that you would never hurt me but yet you set a plan in motion that went on for three consistent months.

Our world as we knew is now coming to and end. I hope that you and I never have bad feelings for one another but just know that where we are today is where we need to be. I wish you the best and hopefully no hard feelings.

Him

August 2010, I saw him (from behind) immediately when I walked into the store, and from the back he was oh so sexy. I glanced at him as I passed but that was it. The day that I am rushing and need to get a quick bite to eat, he walks in. Because I am amazed that I have just encountered another African American in Vegas I do not recognize him at first. But what I did note was that he was not wearing a wedding band which meant possibility.

My kids and I order our food while he is on the phone, don't worry I am still checking him out. I go sit down and he orders his food comes by and speaks to my boys but not once does he open his mouth to me. What does do is sits directly behind me with all those empty seats in this place. I made the that initial contact with him because I am so nosey and I had to ask him a question. I have been talking to him ever since that day, sure I may be infatuated with him because we are in the initial stage of our relationship, and there is no doubt that he has me feeling like a little girl, who wants to be played with.

We have great conversation and that is very important to me. Since I have been away from him these last five days he has made me feel like I am the only woman in the world, by giving me his undivided attention. Just this last week I have concluded that he is more than attractive but that he has an emotional attachement to me. I trust him, feel safe with him and can laugh with him, we have a connection that i don't want to go away. We actually in a round about way talked about who would be the first to say "I love you" first let the record reflect he has already used the word twice while referencing me, so i'm convinced he will be the first one, I told him I bet I could have him saying first. Guess who said as I sit here writing this blog, yep he did. :)

I made a promise to him that so long as he was worthy of my time, I would make him/us a priority and obligation. At this point in the game he has secured a place in my heart and I think he knows that thus the reason he may be working to touch my soul. As I told him the other day I want to thank him for wanting to be that man in my life. My heart is yours papa believe it....

Here's wishing things were different......

We met and you said you wanted to be with me, so I allowed you into my world. Was this a mistake? Should I have waited to get to know you better? Every part of my being wants to be with you but your lack of trust is telling my mind to let you go and face the world alone. Sure we may have had some wonderful moments but at some point in time it has to come to end, so I might as well be the bigger person and do what you can not and move forward without you. I will hold no animosity and I promise to speak with you should we ever encounter each other in the streets.

I wish you the best with your endeavors and know that I harbor no hard feelings, without you I would not have made it this far. Thanks for allowing me the opportunity to meet your acquaintance.

Real Talk.....

Last night I wrapped up my evening with a very special person who stated they were thinkig about me today and did not want to close their eyes without speaking to me..

You say you want me to back up off you with my negativity than explain why you won't let me go? Today, I made attempts to talk you but I don't think you are that person for me. I think we have gone as far as we can as I don't believe we can get over this barrier. Your childish and immature and I will never look at you the same.

I'm ready to love again and you have taking me to be a joke for far too long. I'm about to find someone who is worthy of time and energy. I can't do this crap with you anymore. Good luck with your bullshit....

The decision to hire a black man????

March 2010, the Nevada school district began their search for a new Superintendent; yesterday a decision was made to hire Dwight Jones, former Commissioner of Education, of Colorado. Today’s news topic is “was the decision rushed” I have been following this search and believe that of the three candidates selected (one dropped out to accept a position in Florida) he was qualified and what this state needs, considering that Nevada ranks one of lowest in the country. My question now is: Do the people of Nevada beleive the decision was rushed because he his black?

Lies......

You came into my life when I needed a distraction more than anything. Only problem you never stopped lying, Why? Who am I that you felt it necessary to lie too, why am I special? You never stopped having feelings for your ex but yet you wanted me to believe differently. I said things to you that I had not mentioned to any person before and you took that information to be my weakness.

Sure I had fun with you for all of seven days and then things went to the far left because you were not a strong man in your abilities to keep things real. I may not be the best woman out there but the thing I am positive about is that I am a good woman, one that you will never ever recognize or know because of your inability to see the truth.

One love

Stupidity

Is stupidity your best quality, a characteristic that makes you believe you are a better person? Is it gene that was passed on to you from your parents? I used to think that you were operating or arrogance but you, are STUPID! I can not abide stupid! If you were merely IGNORANT, you could be taught!!

You think with the past you have acquired you would have learned and profited from that experience. I can not believe that a person that claims to be better man than most rejects evidence in favor of beliefs. You are a repeat offender who denies the wisdom of those wiser than self. Your stupidity allows you to be unable to change his or her view point based on logic, reason, evidence, and fact. You are an idiot if you allowed your stupid baby momma to make you go out into the world and write bad checks in order to see your son.

Your Stupidity is that quality that makes me wonder if you are really incapable or grossly inept at change/growth. Your inability to understand or agree with the point of view of others causes a great concern for me. Your actions are starting to confirm for me that your arrogance that has led to your stupidity may not be entirely your fault, but I still claim you to be stupid. But perhaps a better qualifier would be that your ignorance about this situation, yet your attempt to discuss said situation as if you were not ignorant, is stupid.

Floyd Mayweather, Jr.

Why??????? You are idolized by most so why would you go do something as stupid as allegedly beat your ex-girlfriend and steal her cell phone, for real? Sure the media in Las Vegas is probably over dramatizing the events that took place between you and Ms. Josie, but the fact remains that now your mug shot will consume my television all weekend, WHY? You are facing jail time over an EX, seriously??? Freaking Paris Hilton’s arrest was downplayed and will receive less airtime. I understand different situations but you’re a black man, a respected man and now this….Shaking my head…

Mr. Floyd whoever is in your camp that has allowed you to be depicted in this manner by the media needs to be let off of your “money train”. I say this because someone thought it was a good move to record and post your rant about Manny Pacquiao, as well as go to your ex’s house. You might have more money than the State of Nevada’s deficit but to run the risk of losing some of your endorsements, wow….Because of the recent events you should think about reorganizing and do it immediately because someone in your camp does not have your best interest. I personally would have talked you down off of both of those ledges because another individual is not worth the headache that you have drummed up…Sure I may not have all the facts but I know about domestic “unnecessary” situations and this is probably one that could have been easily avoided…..

My prayers...

I contacted you to send my prayers to you and your family. Losing a loved one is not something anyone wishes on the worst enemy. Instead of you thanking me for having you in my thoughts you respond: "I appreciate the concern, but I'm not sure how to take it because you have no concern and had no concern for me or my family when you were putting up your post of you and another man on your FB page, nor were you concerned for me when you had your legs behind your head while you allowed another man to insert his dick in and out of your pussy repeatedly while still being legally married to me, but I'm sorry, your excuse for that is we are seperated. even though I am going through what seems to be an heart breaking moment for me and my family. Like a damn fool I still Love You and want to come home to you even after you so proudly threw up in my face that you are fucking another man. I have not nor have had the desire to fuck another woman other than you my wife. Once again about the Adult Friend Finder thing, had you simply fucked your husband instead of denying your husband sex from his wife, and directing him to seek sex from another instead of the woman who took those with me, then none of that Adult Friend Finder would have come in to play. Yet you still never answered the question of, if I you are not suppose to fuck your husband, then who's place is it to fuck your husband other than you? My Dad is a symbol of how short life really is and why we should not be apart the way we are, but I guess until it hits home for you, then you will never understand that the things that you're allowing to keep us seperated is not worth continuing. Never-the-less I appreciate the thoughts of your should be Father-inlaw," how does a woman take a man back after a words such as these? A simple thank you in someones time of need goes a long way. I've always known how you felt about me but this just soldifies what I have been stating.....

Paris Hilton?????

What is wrong with this scenario Nevada police pulled over Paris Hilton while she was driving and smoking weed and the cocaine fell out of her purse after the arrest but she only faces probation, mind you she has already served jail time, but my ass was fined $1587 for driving with out of state plates?

Am I required to answer my phone for real????

I am not sure why you are up this early calling my phone with your continued bull crap. If I did not know any better I would assume that you are stalking me and have nothing better to do but cause me STRESS. I do believe you are dangling on the retarded side if you wholeheartedly believe that I am by some special law required to answer my phone. I think that you should contact the local authorities and file an official complaint because from this day forward I will never answer that damn phone as long as I see your number or a number I do not recognize, believe it but just know there are penalties for making a mockery of the law....

Here is some food for thought if you really believe that I am teaching my son to have disrespect because he also chooses not to take your call then please contact the Division of Child and Family Services and let them know that my child is in danger of poor parenting skills they can be reached at 702 399-0081.

You need to get over yourself and this quest to make me as miserable as you. Last week you were talking about God like you have a special connections with him but for some reason I do not see but wish you the very best in locating or establishing a relationship with him. Please seek God because you are in need of desperate help.....

Why.....

You constantly text me stating that you want our marriage to work but yet you continue to talk about me on FaceBook "The children are another story within their self. 4 children by 4 different men, which is not really the issue until you look at the men that she loved so much to bare their child, and that's where it gets real tricky. I must first say to P...ete who is her youngest son Pedro's father. I commend you for never losing focus on the most important thing in life, and that's your son Pedro. You are a great father, and I too am a great husband when it comes to Melva even though I did inherit your past problems with my wife. She never had the chance for you two to really close the chapter on you all relationship, because the minute I came along she look at me like I was going to cheat on her like she claimed you did in the past. She also had a real problem with me wanting to have communication with all 4 of her childrens father, which did not make any sense seeing as how I was supposed to be the man that was soon to be her husband. Before you get married to me you are suppose to establish an open line of communication with the child father or mother because that is the right road to go when there are children involved. Children are suppose to see family united and not divided." author Deejay O.C. on or about August 24... I am not real sure how you expect me to believe that you want this marriage to work when you continue to trash me because I won't return to the drama filled world as I know it with you, your lies, your adult friend finder ways, the sex offender status oh yeah and the drunken Juanita that you bought into this relationship. You can depict me as any person you so choose, but to make yourself to be the victim is really getting tiresome. I know your words on FB are your true feelings and not that bullshit you keep texting about loving me and wanting to seek spiritual counsel for someone who wants to put God in their relationship should know first and foremost that attacking me a social network is not any way to mend any relationship.. Take the advice of Mrs. Mitchell and know that you are worth more than this bad person you have made me out to be and please move on. The man in the picture would never disrespect me in the manner that you have in fact should you contact him you will see what type of person is truly is thus the reason he and I are able to remain FRIENDS.